Last year, my son started preschool. Every day, he would count the days until he could go next. It was such a good feeling to have him excited about going. This year, Jack was really excited to start again. But, by the end of his second week, he started saying that he doesn’t want to go to school. We are into our fourth week and I’m finding it harder and harder to get him excited about school.
I’m not sure if it is just the transition of going from preschool, which was twice a week for two and a half hours, to five days a week for seven hours a day that is doing this. Or if it might be because he is now in French immersion and is finding the transition to immersion hard. It is a struggle as a parent to basically force your child out the door as they tell you for the 100th time that they don’t want to go to school.
I can’t remember ever not want ing to go to school. Especially in the younger grades. Both my husband and I loved the challenges and learning that went on in school. I think that if I didn’t want to go to school, it was because of friend issues. Not because of the learning.
When I ask Jack why he doesn’t want to go to school, he usually brushes off the question. One time he did say its becuase he gets tired at school. I’m hoping this is the only reason why he doesn’t want to go. I know that school will get easier for him the longer he goes as he gets used to the new routine.
Until the day that he is used to the long days, I need to find ways to get him excited about going to school. I’ve tried focusing on exciting things like playing with friends, going to the park, and going to the library as focus point for him, but so far I’ve had no luck. Today I packed him a special treat in his lunch, which gave him something to look forward to. I’m not sure I should be putting special treats in his lunch every day though. That seems like a bad decision.
So. I am left with the task of getting my son motivated to go to school. I’m not sure I have an answer for this one, except to keep positive about things he can look forward to doing, and helping him understand the time frames. Five days at school. Two days at home. Fun things at night. Maybe if we have things to look forward to in the evenings, it will get easier for him? Or maybe he’ll just be more tired.
I’ll keep you updated on our progress on this one.