It is always a struggle to find balance in our lives. I found it harder when I became a parent. You try to juggle taking care of your kids, cleaning the house, spending time with your spouse, and living a healthy and active lifestyle. Maybe you have a job or are trying to make money on the side. In addition, you want to spend time with friends and keep up with your hobbies. It is a lot. And I’m not sure if you ever find the perfect balance. Especially as a parent to young children.
Over the past couple weeks, I have found that Jack, Eva, and Marie have started getting really good at playing together. Thanks to this new development, I have been able to find more time to clean and organize my house during the day. I have to say, it has been very nice being able to get things done that I have not had time to do in a long time.
In addition to finally being able to get my home life organized, after starting my new job a couple months ago, I have finally come into a rhythm that works for our family. Now, during the weeks where I have my writing deadlines, my husband comes home after work, we eat together as a family and then I run upstairs to my office and work four days of the week. The kids pop their heads in a couple times throughout the evening to say hi, but I now work about 20 hours a week. It is very rewarding to be able to sit and work and accomplish something, knowing you are getting a paycheck for it. I haven’t done this in over five years and it is something that was missing in my life.
Another big plus has been that my husband is getting some much-wanted quality time with the kids that he didn’t usually get as I’m always home with them. It has been hard for Jarrett to get quality time with the kids as when he gets home, I usually want to spend family time together as we don’t always get a lot of time to spend as the five of us. With me working, he now gets to have his quality Dad time with the kids, which his something he really appreciates.
It is a weird feeling when everything in your life starts falling into place. I’m starting to sleep through the night for the first time in five years. I’m starting to exercise in the evenings. I’ve been able to make healthier food for my family. It is a really good feeling. Is everything perfect? Of course not. Money is still really tight and my bedroom and kitchen need some major renovations that are just going to have to wait. But, in general, life is good.
I think it’s important to remember that while life isn’t perfect, all we can do is focus on the good, and strive for what we want. Prioritizing is key. We all balance the best that we can. I still had balance when the kids were younger, it just meant that my house was less clean and I was going to bed earlier. There is no perfect balance as a parent. Once we are able to start juggling one thing, another ball may drop. Enjoy the phases that you have, and appreciate each juggling act that you are able to accomplish. Soon something else will drop onto your plate and you’ll have to adjust.
For now, I’m just going to keep on juggling and enjoy the place that I am right now with my family and my kids.