The prospect of having multiples is a pretty daunting task. Twice the diapers, twice the crying, twice the mess. But, there are also twice the cuddles, twice the kisses, and twice the love! For those of you who are expecting multiples, here are some tips that will help you in your journey of being a new parent of multiples.
- Do What’s Best For You
There is no real rulebook for you to follow as a new parent. There are lots of experts and other parents who will offer their advice to you, but in the end, the decisions are up you to. You are the parent and you know what will work for your children what won’t. Every child is different. What works great for one child may not work at all for your children. It’s okay to try one thing with your child, and then adjust the method to fit your child’s needs. I found I had to make adjustments to lots of things I did with my singleton to fit my life with my twins and singleton. Ultimately, if the child is safe and happy, you’re probably doing a good job.
- Enjoy the Moments
Parenting is hard. Doing double duty on babies is even harder. Be sure to stop and enjoy the little moments. Your babies are only babies for a short period of time. So, despite the exhaustion you are sure to experience, appreciate the little moments of cuddling and cooing. Laugh so you don’t cry when you get puked or pooped on. It. Will. Happen. And take lots of pictures of those little angels when they are happy! Those are the moments you want to remember.
- Don’t Be Afraid to Leave the House
One thing I am very proud of was my ability to leave the house after I had my twins. It is a lot of work to pack up the kids, make sure you have all the necessary diapers, wipes, diaper cream, burp cloths, bottles, extra clothing, snacks, toys, and anything else you may require to take care of your children. Maybe the kitchen sink? Just in case? And by the time you are all packed up, one of your kids needs another bum change. Be sure to give yourself lots of time get everything done!
Despite all this work, it’s important to get out of the house not only for your sanity, but it gets your children accustomed to the outside world of new noises, driving in a vehicle, sitting for extended periods of time, and interacting with people outside your house. I started going for walks with my twins at a very early age because it kept them entertained by being outside and I was able to get a little bit of a break by just walking and enjoying being outside.
- Be Flexible
As a parent of multiples, life gets easier if you can be flexible. When you throw two babies into the mix, plans don’t always run smoothly. You may be late, you may be early. You may just have to cancel plans. Nap when your kids nap if you can, and don’t worry about the dishes, laundry or vacuuming. It’s okay to have a messy house. It’s okay to have dirty dishes in the sink. Obviously, you don’t want a dirty house, but keep with basic cleaning and don’t apologize for the fact that you are exhausted and didn’t have the energy to do it.
- It’s Okay to Ask For Help
Most importantly, remember that you are not alone as a new parents. Accept help from friends and family when they offer. Throw that pride out the window and let them help you with your chores or let you shower. Your public health center also offers help if you need it. They are a great resource if you have any medical questions. And, of course, there are lots of twin groups that you can join with all of us experienced parents of multiples! We are always happy to offer support or advice to those who need it. Just remember, we all survived! You can too!